The Stresses Of Modern Life

Life could be tough and life could be boring at some stage. Too many little things to do too little time. What if we don’t get it done, what if we don’t get it done before it's due, what if this, what if that. This is when we really go into stress mode!





Open-ended questions may be a contributory factor to our stress. We often come out with answers like with that would be awful, that would be terrible which compounds the stressful feelings even more.

Take note of one thing though, whenever we hear ourselves saying we need-to, we have-to, we got-to it's best to replace it with " we want-to or we would like to. Substitute needs with desires. That would really be useful.

This is simply to remind ourselves that awful things will not happen if our desires are not met. We may not like the results if things don’t go our way, but we can indeed stand the feelings. It may not be good if things don’t fall into place like we want, but the world will continue to spin and we will be able to handle it.

It takes time to get use to these and it takes practice as well. Don’t expect it to happen for you like magic. Pay attention to our self-talk, listen for the what-if statements, flag the must and need statements. We should know how to dispute them with wants and desires. Do it vigorously. With time it will become second nature, and you’ll notice the lack of stress in our lives.